We are of the universe, a galaxy of thoughts, of happiness and mystery, love, anger. We are a mosaic of eclectic crystals, sometimes an artist, others a bit of a diva, maybe a dreamer. People often feel that being one way automatically cancels out some other part of their personality, when really there is no clear cut between black and white; there are millions of colors and shades that make us the way we are! (And I am not just saying this because I happen to be a walking contradiction…) This pours through every aspect of our life, our moods, our clothes, the way we decorate our home, those little things we love to do with the people we most cherish.
And remember, no matter where you go, there you are. — Confucius
It isn’t about labeling yourself, because labels confine your identity to one sole mass based on popular stereotypes, and while a few people do feel like they belong to a certain category (i.e. the way music might be in a specific genre), it all comes down to attitude, your tendencies, the part of ‘you’ that remains even as time passes. You might have a tendency to be quiet, yet around friends you are out going and the life of the party. That’s fine. Maybe you love the vintage look but on a Friday night you go all out, Poker Face style. That’s fine too. Your ‘essence’ will remain no matter how your mood/the stage of life you find yourself in determines what you wear or how you act. It is about knowing more about your ‘self’, being comfortable in your own skin (and being comfortable does not mean becoming static; there is always room for experimenting and trying out new things which may or may not work for you).
Of course it is definitely easier said than done. Many of us aren’t even sure of what our ‘self’ comprises entirely. This shouldn’t become an identity struggle, but rather just a reminder to be aware that we do not need to be constant with absolutely everything, that we are changing (the way that you can’t step into a flowing river twice), and to nurture every part of our inward being.
From my own self, I have identified the six parts that make up my essence for now, so to speak. Though they are and will be forever changing there are certain aspects of them that will always remain:
- The Dreamer: She is looking for change, ways to improve her life and experience. Sets goals and seeks motivation to get them, trying (though very hard sometimes) to keep a positive attitude. May find herself up in the clouds from time to time, but if there is a will there is a way.
- The Meditator: She is contemplative, keeps her surroundings in mind and always imagines the what ifs. Driven by curiosities, both big and small, she wants to learn and keep learning.
- They Gypsy: She is spiritual without committing to any one specific religion, instead taking the best of each. Of the Earth, tries to find balance between the materialistic and the spiritual. Importance of mental health and spiritual well-being.
- The Lover: She loves herself first, including all eccentricities, physical imperfections (though she battles with The Diva at times). A lover of everything that comprises life: the people, the places, the experiences. Forgives herself, finds a way to live with not-so-great decisions so that she may have better judgement next time around.
- The Diva: Adds that little bit of drama. Everything superficial, indulges in shopping and little greedy wants. She is strong willed, quiet but stubborn. One day on top and the next hoping to blend into the walls, versatile, indecisive, jealous.
- The Artificer: Loves to create, imagine. She is a perfectionist and very impatient, which is why she needs a little extra push for some projects (driven by The Dreamer)
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Which parts make your ‘self’? Do you tend to be constant in behavior, or are you a bit of a contradiction like me?
